Gender & Sexuality

Coming Out


Each of us is created in the image of God and a divine spark resides within.

Acknowledging the true self is an affirmation of the God that created you and the Godliness within. If we lie about our identity then our life fails to fully meet its potential. The journey may be difficult and we might not feel safe at all times, but may we be blessed to create a circle of loved and loving ones who will support and protect and will help us reach sheltering peace beneath the wings of Shechinah.


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May God give you the strength and wisdom to be the person you need to be, to discover the fullness of your being and express the identity you want to express. As God’s self is beyond all gender, so may you embody the qualities of Godliness that transcend the limits of language and express the essence of love. We thank God for making each of us according to God’s will.

Blessed are you, Adonai our God, creator of the Universe who made me according to Your will.

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’ אֱ-להֵינוּ מֶלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם שֶׁעָשַׂנִי כִּרְצוֹנוֹ.

Baruch Atah Adonai, Elohaynu Melech Ha-olam She-asani kirtzono


Genesis 1:27

“And God created humans in God’s own image, in the image of God, God created them; [in a range of genders] God created them.”

Samuel 2: 1:26

“My brother Jonathan, You were most dear to me. Your love was wonderful to me, More than the love of women.”


The secret of love, how can it be contained
The heart and the tear are talebearers.
The heart is restrained from what it seeks,
Shut up and be passion of him besieged,
Unable to obtain its desire.
If it presumes to attain to the stars,
Its pride is brought down, laid low.
Beloved like a hart, with heart of a panther,
If you desire to slay,
My heart is in your hand as clay.
But do not summon wanderings upon it.
For in its midst your name is sheltered.
Beloved, like a scarlet cord his lips,
Burning like fire for they are his censer,
And in them is the work of his signs.
Live by them, for it waits for them —
A heart long suffering because of them.
How my fate has hardened its spirit.
A while and separation will cause it to be odious
To my friends who knew its thoughts.
If wandering has separated us,
It has increased love.
I will watch for the gazelle
To leave in the garden my pleasures,
Although my rebuker stands to accuse me.

Isaac ibn Abraham, 12th century Spain.

You have been called to be true to your inner self —
you have taken the brave step to renew yourself
so that you can be wholly who you are.
You have chosen to recognize this transformation,
to distinguish this transformation as a holy moment,
in the midst of your Jewish community.
In Torah, the Jewish people are “The ivrim, the Hebrews,”
the crossing-over people.
As we crossed over the Red Sea to escape slavery,
to escape the narrow places of Mitzrayim, of Egypt,
we transformed ourselves —
a painful yet redemptive spiritual transition.


Psalm 100:

Raise a shout for Adonai, all the earth Worship Adonai in gladness Come into God’s presence with shouts of joy. Acknowledge that Adonai is God; God made us and we belong to God. God’s people, the flock God tends. Enter these gates with praise, These courts with praise, Praise God! Bless God’s name! For Adonai is good; God’s steadfast love is eternal; God’s faithfulness is for all generations